My mom just got a call from the mother of a guy I have been seeing. He has been staying out there. She said he is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict and they don't want me out there. I don't know. He hasn't done anything to give me the idea that he is a drug addict or alcoholic. Maybe he has done things since he has been here that I haven't seen or heard about. I don't know. He did mention to me that folks where he came from had called his mom and told her a lot of stories..how in heck do you figure out whats true in a case like this? I don't know anyone up there where he lived before that I could check out..and that doesn't seem right anyway..I have read about folks having background checks done on people they meet online..but never actaully met anyone that did that. Do you guys think thats right? How do you judge something like this? And if he is recovering...how long do you treat someone as if walking on eggshells? Never actaully met a recovering alcoholic that I know of...do you treat them like babies forever? Guess I just don't really know how to act in this situation. This is a grown man..44 years old. Any suggestions? Advice? Not even sure I am saying this right. I just know that he was becoming a friend..I am comfortable with him..can talk to him..I like him. Don't know of anything bad about him myself..only what they have said about him. And don't know enough about them to know if they really know what they are talking about. I do know I don't want him to think I am just dumping him because someone said something bad about him. Not sure they will tell him that they me to not come out there..I think he will be angry if they do tell him.
Guess I need to think about this more.