After reading  parity today I got to thinking about being assertive. As in saying what you like and don't like. What you approver and don't approve. What you want and don't want. Letting folks know when something hurts your feelings or makes you angry. Not sure if that covers everything but if not I am sure you guys will let me know. In any case I am thinking I have a problem with this. I really find it very hard to tell people things if I am emotional...as in angry or upset. And if I wait till I am not..then half the time I forget what it was about it that really upset me in the first place. I mean it passes and its pretty much gone. Things that happen often do stick after a while though..I mean if I get upset over the same thing several times then I tend to think about it..mull it over..worry at it. Sometimes for a long time before I manage to say anything. That is true even for blogging...the things I post generally are superficial, shallow, everyday sorts of things..only rarely does something that has been rolling around in the back of my mind come toghether into a deeper sort of post. So I am thinking that I have a problem with being assertive. I am wondering..why in heck can't I just say that I really don't like beer? LOL. Or tell someone that yes it does upset me when I feel like I am being used. Or that I really don't want my room painted an orangish color? There are lots of things that I really have no real preferance about..but when I do..why is it so danged hard to say so? And how does one develope the ability to do so?